Hello dear reader, I’m glad you’ve found your way back to my page. It’s been a while since I’ve written something… But the idea of sharing my view on love and the importance of it, to you, had been stuck in my brain for a very, very long time. Also it’s my first time I’m writing a blog while enjoying a glass of red wine (or two, or three) for the first time – I’m feeling like a lost poet, ngl…
Anyways, there are many reasons I’m sharing some thoughts about love to you, today.
The last few months have been extremely rough to me, I had lots of up & down; I felt very lost, confused, stressed and out of balance. I believe there were a lot of factors involved, that made me feel the way that it did. But in that time, something magically happened to me: I met someone and fell in love with her.
After my first relationship, my first love, had failed after multiple times of trying, we went seperate ways in 2021. After that I thougt it’s really time to focus on my healing because I was extremly messed up during the relationship; I was young and I didn’t gave her what she deserved, also it was the time I was the most unstable mentally, I had my deep, deep depression and I wasn’t able to share love towards my partner, because my mind has been exremly focused on negative emotions, I was carrying my traumatas from my childhood and young youth. After that, I said to myself: “Don’t fall in love until you’re (fully) healed”. I don’t want to hurt people (emotionally), just because I’m not where I should be mentally – it’s not fair. But love is something you can’t avoid and you’re not able to plan it, if it happens – it happens.
So time has passed until a girl from tenerfie started texting with me, I never met her but I crossed her eyes once while grocery shopping (she used to live in switzerland). We started texting, and the texting turned into facetiming almost every single night until I decided to go and meet her in Tenerife. We both knew that the chance that things wouldn’t go as we would like them to go, was there; mostly because of the long distance; not being able to see her, hold her, laugh with her and feel her company. But still, it felt like a great decision to do that trip, an adventure and if we don’t try, we won’t know…
The week that I’ve spended with her was magical, it was the most beautiful holidays I’ve ever had. After I came back to Switzerland, reality suddenly hit. I felt very frustrated, knowing, “Wow” it was beautiful, but the unknown had me going insane, with not being able to see her, spend time with her and give her everything she deserves… Somehow the circumastances didn’t allow us to take the next step, to walk the way together. It was a rollercoaster of emotions for her and me, because the situation didn’t allow us to go that way, together. It tare me apart, I haven’t cried for such a long time, nor did I felt something like that for another human being for such a long time. It also showed me, that I wasn’t fully healed yet and that I should continue going my path and making my healing a priority and safe my love in the romantic way, until I’m fully healed.
Even tho, it didn’t went the way we wanted to, it was an extremly beautiful experience; love. But love doesn’t always mean to feel something romantically, you don’t need to be in a relationship or have a crush on someone to feel or share love. I believe love is the most powerful thing, we as humans are able to feel, experience and give – love in all it’s forms; the nature, a smile, the first breath of a new born, giving without expecting something in return, helping. It’s love that brings us joy, peace, balance, life, and fullfillment; it’s essential and it’s vital; without love, there wouldn’t be life – I wouldn’t be able to write this now, you wouldn’t be able to read this now.
The acutal main goal with this blog post is, to encourage you; to plant more love into this world & society. To give without expecting something in return. I believe love is a chain reaction; if you do something good, let’s say to another human being, this person will do it to another human being as well, and so it goes on.
I often see mothers in public transportation with their stroller and I would always help them to carry the stroller out of the train. When i see a musician in the streets, I would give him a little amount. Recently, I saw kids that were selling cakes and cookies to save money for their school excursion, i gave them something, without taking a cake or cookie. I saw a blind man that struggled, so I asked him if I could help him. It’s those little things that matter. There’s no need to, to tell anyone that you’ve done a little act of kindness, but you did something – you helped someone, you cared for someone… What you get in return is maybe a thank you as well as a smile, and that’s all that matters. You may think; I’ve shared it now and I’m seeking attention or something like that, but no, I want to give you examples and encourage you to open your eyes and help, where you can.
Looking back to the history of the world, we can see that there were hippies rebelling in the 1960s -1970s. They had enough of war (vietnam war), they were seeking for freedom, they felt sick of people dying because of narcisstic politicans assholes, seeking for more money, power and other unimportant things. I feel like the century we’re living in right now is getting lost on things that aren’t important; to show off, care about materialistic things, be someone they’re not and the list goes on… We are sharing the planet with billions of individuals, everyone is different, but we came and should go trought the same thing; through love. Choose love over chaos, choose love over violence, choose love in your life.
Hate, selfish behavior and ignorance will never be the way. We’re all equal and we will all leave this planet in the same way. Hate will never be the answer, violance will never be the answer. But love is the answer. Love will not only heal me or you, but it will heal the world and that’s what the world needs. We, the people that don’t need to experience war, dictatorships, are privliget and behaving like we’re not is just unfair to all the other people living on this planet – to the people that are suffering, because their country suffers from major problems. There are many, many problems on this planet right now, but we can make a difference by behaving the way we should; equality & love, and protesting & helping people that have less than we do – you can make a difference, believe me – it starts within you.
“The planet does not need more ‘successful people’. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds. It needs people to live well in their places. It needs people with moral courage willing to join the struggle to make the world habitable and humane and these qualities have little to do with success as our culture is the set.”
In the world where you can be anything you want, be the one with the warmest heart and the kindest soul. Choose love & peace and help where you can, you came to this world for a reason and you can make a change. And we all deserve it; love – keep going.
Cheers and give peace a chance. <3