Hello, and welcome back to davesyndrom.
I hope you’re doing fine and that you’ve had a calm summer break.
Today’s topic will be about apologizing. I’m writing this because I’ve noticed a lot of things about this topic and I’d like to share my thoughts about it with you.
I always had this topic in my mind, wanted to write about it because I think it’s a very important topic to talk about.
So first of all, why do I think it’s very important to apologize?
I truly believe it’s a very important thing to do for your own wellbeing and also for the other person. Sometimes we do or say something and we don’t realize what we’ve done. Some actions or some words can do some really bad damage to a person. They may think about it for days, months, or even years, without us even recognizing what we’ve done. Self reflection – something I bring up often – it’s very important!
You know, I experienced it by myself too. I wasn’t always a good person to others. I believe it’s impossible to always be good to others. There are numerous factors that influence how you treat others, including your mental state, life situation, illness, alcohol, drugs, experiences, morals, what your parents taught you, and so on.
I’ve experienced a situation with a family member of mine and also myself what the consequences are, when you don’t apologize. It could be too late. When the other person you’ve done wrong to, dies. Time goes by and with every second you don’t have the courage to stand up for your mistakes. The person may be gone forever and you never had the chance to apologize, until it’s too late. Don’t forget that every person has their own ticking time that goes by. The day will come, for everyone of us.
What the person does with your apologize, is their decision. It’s more about that they know you really feel sorry for what you’ve done, said, or whatever. You can’t do anything else than that… But after you’ve apologized, you can finish it for you – you can make peace.
In today’s time, something I experience a lot is, that people don’t apologize (enough). I think it’s horrible. It’s better to live in peace than be at war. There are too many people that are too sure of themselves and have a lack of self-reflection. They live life as if they never do wrong and they’re right all the time, ignoring the fact that they may hurt people or even be conscientious about this behavior, but don’t give a shit about it.
The way not to need to apologize at, is to not harm or do things that harm people in the first place. You really never know what the other person is going through. But, nobody is perfect. If you know you’ve done something wrong, apologize – really nothing wrong about it.
“Apologizing does not always mean you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.”
With this said, I want to empower you and give you the courage to apologize more. It’s nothing bad; it’s actually very vital thing to do for everyone.
Cheers and take care of yourself.
Dave