When birth is giving we are becoming the people we grow up with; our parents, family, friendships and more. – because we haven’t developed our own identity yet, we’re still in the process of learning.
As a child and in the evolution from birth, live and death we will carry a deep identity within us, who we are, how we act, what we like, what we dislike, our moral and more. Just everything that defines us.
In this process from birth till death, we will change our identity multiple times without even noticing it in the first place. Only as time goes by, and our self reflection begins, we will notice the difference between past, present moment and the future, so we become aware of our changes.
I think what really makes us, is everything we experience throughout life. The people we are surrounded with, the people we grew up with, the conversations we have, losses, the things you’ve seen, the things you went through. All these things will shape you in a particular way.
The great thing about the human being is, that we have the ability to think, to change, to adjust, to reflect and change our thinking.
So what is this post all about?
Being yourself and accepting yourself – yes, that’s something everybody says, but really; Being your true, authentic self will bring you peace.
Accept the fact, that you are you. If YOU dislike something about yourself, change it. And why am I writing something like this?
Throughout life, you will always face something; People trying to tell YOU who YOU are! And in my opinion, that’s just not the right thing to do.
You are you and that’s totally fine, like I said if you dislike something about yourself you can change it, because it’s your life and your life means your responsibility, take your fate in your own hand. (Not as easy as it sounds, but accepting yourself = being your authentic self, dislike something about your authentic self and changing it = still authentic self, so changes could be very good.)
Nobody has the right to tell you who you are by their subjective impression they have about you, welcome to modern society – everything’s just really superficial…
But why is it so bad telling people who they are?
If this happens multiple times, especially in a short period of time, they will start to believe that and this could end into (extremely) self doubting and questioning themselves in a very bad way.
Also, it’s very common, that the descriptions they’re giving towards you isn’t constructive, it’s just toxic and nonsense.
Constructive criticism is good and deconstructive is bad. Constructive = criticism with respect, showing you different aspects you may not notice. deconstructive = disrespectful, against your personality, attacking you.
“Being our messy, imperfect authentic selves helps create a space where others feel safe to be themselves too. Your vulnerability can be a gift to others, how badass is that?”
Cheers 🙂